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My Journey Through The Ecclesiastical Maze

Part 26

Divine Friendships In The Midst Of Disaster

 

In 1991 and 1992 I found myself in an extremely sad and depressing situation that was not of my choosing.  What got me through those days was the presence of the Holy Spirit and the friendship of my brothers in Christ.

 

Pretty well every day during this year or so of sadness and sorrow I’d meet with my friend Jim for encouragement and direction.  When in turmoil, you often need those who Jesus has placed you with to help bring clarity of heart and mind.  If your experience with church is merely organizational and not relational, you’ll miss the warm-hearted friendships which are fundamental to the Body of Christ.  Organized church can be cold and clinical at times.  Sitting in front of a pastor’s desk in a counseling session might be beneficial, but having a warm friendly shoulder to cry on goes a long way as well.        

 

The counter-cultural community of Christ that Jesus has placed us in provides comfort, direction, care, and more  in the best of times and in the worst of times. I’ve experienced such care throughout my life but especially so in 1991 and 92. 

 

The care and comfort I’m speaking of is not merely humanistic in nature.  We can find a friendly shoulder and more at the corner drinking establishment, but that won’t produce the same results as the shoulder found on those we are joined to in the Body of Christ.  The element of the divine, the Holy Spirit should be part of our friendships in the Body of Christ.  I’d like to relate two situations that demonstrate this.   

 

It was the second or third Sunday in March 1992 when I heard the bad news. I knew it was coming at some point.  I just didn’t know exactly when, but that was no consolation.  It never is.   Strangely enough, the news came just after a Sunday morning church meeting.  It was devastating.  My head was in a daze, and my heart was emotionless as I sat speechless on the love seat where no love could be found.  Nothing could have been said that would have changed anything so there wasn’t any reason to say anything.  It was all over.  My life seemed to spin into suspended animation where I was caught in a vacuum of nothingness while life just passed me by.  I was completely numb of any normal feeling at that moment.  Any emotion I might have felt just up and left.  I might as well have been a wooden statue sitting beside my CD player, or a corpse void of its soul.  

 

Little did I know that Jesus was working behind the scene on my behalf, and this is where the divine aspect to relationships comes in.  It was the evening of the day I received the bad news.  It was in a church service that my friend Jim didn’t normally attend.  He “accidentally” met an elderly lady I knew years earlier after the service.  I say “accidentally”, but it was no accident.  It was the intervening hand of Jesus.  Jim didn’t really remember this lady as she asked him if he was Steve Sweetman’s friend.  Although Jim couldn’t remember her, he could still remember that he was my friend, so he told her that he was.  The next day, which was Monday,  Jim related this to me when we met for our daily time of encouragement.        

 

The elderly lady told Jim that just the day before she had opened an old box from her attic that she hadn’t seen in years.  That would have been on Saturday.  In this box was a wedding invitation that I had given her in 1977.  The Lord specifically told her to take the invitation out of the box, place it on her mantel, and “pray for Steve”.  This elderly lady is one of those people we’ve called a “prayer warrior” over the years.  So she prayed for me, even though she didn’t exactly know why she was praying, although she might have been able to guess.  In response to her prayers Jesus told her that He would look after me, and make sure I always had a place to live and would always have shoes on my feet.  Jim was amazed at what she said.  He told her why Jesus had her put the invitation on her mantel and pray.  The timing was a miracle.  She pulled the invitation out of the box the day before I got the bad news, and related these things to Jim just hours after I received the news, but the story doesn’t end here. 

 

Two days later, on Tuesday, I sat on a bench at our local mall.  This same elderly lady who sat on the bench behind me softly spoke to me in a weakened voice.  She asked me, “are you Steve Sweetman”?  I told her I was.  She told me her name and I immediately remembered her from the 1970’s.  I had not seen her for fifteen years.     

 

In a spirit of graciousness and concern she told me that just three days earlier she discovered the invitation I gave her in 1977 while looking in an old box in her attic.  She told me that Jesus had her take the invitation out of the box and place it on her mantel so she could remember me in prayer.  She then prophesied to me by saying that Jesus would always have a place for me to live and that I’d always have shoes on my feet.  It was quite evident that Jesus wanted me to know that He’d look after me despite what I was going through.  I began to cry while sitting on that bench in the mall.  I’m not sure if anyone saw my tears, but that didn’t really matter.  When you’re touched by Jesus, who cares what anyone thinks. 

 

This prophetic word came from a dear sister in Christ who I had not seen in fifteen years. It was exactly the appropriate word for me at that time.  This is divine intervention.  This is the community of Christ in action.  This is the way the Body of Christ should work. Thanks to Mrs. Fisk whose heart was so right before the Lord that she could hear His voice.  And, thankfully I was in that part of the Body of Christ  that believes such prophetic words can still be spoken today.  I feel sorry for those who restrict what Jesus wants to do in their lives.  And here’s another thought.  We shouldn’t relegate the gifts of the Spirit to meetings only.  As in this case, these gifts are for daily living, even in malls. 

 

It was about a month later while in a small gathering fifty miles from my home town when a man from Kentucky spoke to us.  He had never met me before, but after he spoke he came over to me, laid his hands on me and began to pray.  His prayer turned prophetic.  It was as if he knew everything that had happened to me in the last year.  I could not believe what I was hearing.  I felt the presence of Jesus so strong in that moment. I’m not sure I’ve felt His presence any stronger.  It was as if Jesus had invited me into His own personal office, sat me down on a chair beside Him, and gently spoke to me words I needed to hear.  One thing He told me was that I wasn’t “washed up” as I thought I was, and that there was more for me to do in His Kingdom.  He said much more, more than I can say in a sentence or two.  My visit with Jesus lasted about ten minutes or so.  Thanks to Ben Moore who also was close enough to Jesus to hear the message that He had for me that day.      

 

So when I talk about church, I’m talking about being properly joined to a few other believers in “divine friendships”.  I’m not talking organizationally or humanistically. We are bones in His Body.  One bone is joined to another in what we call a joint.  The blood that flows from one bone to another is the Holy Spirit.  This is where the divine nature of our friendships come into play.   I’m not merely talking about friendships.  I’m talking about “divine friendships” where the Holy Spirit is vital in the relationship.  This is church.  The clinicalization found in many parts of the ecclesiastical maze just isn’t church.  Believe me, it really isn’t.   

 

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