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My Journey Through The Ecclesiastical Maze

Part 36

Functional Relationships

 

So far I’ve pointed out two fundamental aspects of church that are not evolutionary in nature.  They are: the church is the physical body for the Spirit of Christ to live in, and, Jesus is the Head of this body.  Let’s now look at the rest of the body.     

 

If each individual Christian is a specific part of Jesus’ body, then like our own physical body parts, we are not all the same part, even though we have the same DNA.  Paul concurs with this in 1 Corinthians 12:14.  You might be an ear.  Someone else might be a tongue.  Then there’s me, an armpit.  Well, someone needs to be an armpit.  It might as well be me instead of you.  Some people struggle with being in close proximity to an armpit, but Paul says that such body parts should receive special honour. (1 Corinthians 12:23).  

 

So to personalize this, I shouldn’t expect everyone to be like me.  I heard that sigh of relief.  You are inherently different from me, and I’m clearly inherently different from you.  I’m sure you’ve figured that out by now.  Therefore, your job in the body is different than mine, and no job is less important than another.  Because of this, we should have mutual respect for one another, assuming we are actually doing our job in the way Jesus expects.  So to warn you, if I work hard at being an armpit, I’ll probably get a bit sweaty at times.     

 

Here’s another point.  As parts of Christ’s body, we’re not all personally joined to every other body part in the body.  Your big toe on your left foot is not joined to your mouth, even though some of us put our feet in our mouth on occasion.  It’s a distinct possibility that your mouth and the big toe on your left foot may never come in contact with each other even though your body needs both to function properly.  Your big toe on you left foot is joined to other bones on your foot, and your big toe works directly with these bones. 

 

My point is simple.  I am personally joined to just a few specific people in the Body of Christ. I’m not joined to everybody.  This is a simple practicality.  You can only have a few close friends at any given time.  I believe that Jesus has personally joined you and I to our close Christian friends.  The connections between you and your few close friends are called “joints”.  Look at one of your fingers.  Where one bone comes in contact with another bone, a joint is formed.

 

The bones in a finger are joined for a reason, and that is to form a finger. Each bone in a finger has a job to do in the context of the finger.  When each bone in the finger is working properly with the bones it’s joined to, the finger will work as it should.  In turn, as your fingers work as they should, your hand will work as it should.  A grade one child can understand this.  Each body part, no matter how small it is works by itself and in conjunction with a couple other body parts that it is joined to. The whole body is as healthy as its weakest member.  Also, the individual body part can only work as it should when it is healthy itself.  This means that you and I must be in good standing with Jesus in order to do our jobs right.  

 

I really don’t think we consider ourselves as body parts in Christ’s body.  I also don’t think we’ve thought through the idea that Jesus could be the one who has joined us to our close friends. We tend to think in terms of being joined to a church organization.  This lack of understanding affects the life of the church.

 

 Here’s an example of how organizational thinking has affected the church.  In general, about all the average Christian does in connection with serving Jesus revolves around a church organization, a church building, and a church curriculum.  When we think of working in the service of our Lord, we think in terms of doing something in the church group we belong to.  These jobs have been put in place by the church structure, by a committee, or the pastor.  We simply pick what job we want as it is advertised in the Sunday bulletin.  We may work with others as we do the job, but the basis of the work is organizational for the most part, not relational.  To say it another way, the job is there because the organization created it.  It’s not there because you and your friend created the job based on you and your friend asking Jesus what job He’d like you to do. 

 

Here’s an often experienced scenario that helps explain my point.  A man who was involved in a certain church for a few years was lamenting the fact that he hadn’t gained any new friendships in this church, even though he worked with others in the church.  His two closest friends were men he had known long before becoming a part of this church.  He question why this should be.  

 

I’d suggest that this man ask himself if Jesus has joined him to these two friends he’s known for years. If he and his friends believe Jesus is behind their friendship, then they should ask Jesus if He would like them to do anything by way of serving Him together.  I believe Jesus has placed him with these couple of friends, but not just to be good buddies.  He and his two Christian friends have been joined together to function in the Body of Christ. They have work to do for Jesus as friends.  If this man could think in terms of functioning with his friends in Christ’s body, and not merely functioning in an organization, he’d feel much better about things.

 

This is my point.  Don’t think organizationally.  Think relationally.  Don’t think in terms of working for a particular church organization.  Think in terms of working with those few good friends Jesus has placed you with, whether they are in the particular organization you’re in or not.  Or at least, add relational thinking to your organizational thinking.  That’s better than nothing.     

 

What I’m speaking about here is what I call “functional relationships”. That means the relationships we have with our friends have an element of work to them.  They function in some kind of capacity in the Body of Christ that in turn makes the body healthier. 

 

I know if we all thought in these terms, things would be different.  Most church organizations would undergo great change and look nothing like they presently do.  Others would cease to exist.  The problem in the ecclesiastical maze as I see it, is that we’ve lost the idea that we are individual parts of a living body. We’ve replaced something that was meant to be  relational with something that is organizational.  New Testament thinking says nothing about being joined organizationally.  

 

Emmy Lou Harris once lamented that in the making of music, we‘ve lost the living room experience in our music.  Emmy Lou Harris and her friends once sat around in their living rooms enjoying each other as they played musical instruments and sang songs.  Once the business of music set in, the making and selling of records, the “living room experience” was lost.  The comfort of the living room was replaced with the structure of the studio in order to promote the business of music.  That’s the way it is in the ecclesiastical maze.  We’ve lost the living room experience in the Body of Christ and have replaced it with the “business of church”.  I know this may be hard for some to comprehend.  It’s something that needs to be pondered over and studied from a Biblical perspective.

 

Here are a few pertinent questions to ask yourself.  Who are my closest friends?   Do I believe Jesus has joined me to these friends?  Am I maintaining a good  relationship with these friends?  And lastly, am my close friends and I doing anything in the service of our Lord together?  If not, can we seek Him for direction?

 

We often think in terms of maintaining our close friendships, but don’t often think in terms of working in the service of our Lord together.  We go out for coffee together.  We go to movies together.  Why not work for Jesus together?  Friendships should be functional as well as relational.  This is the Body of Christ in action.   This truth is not evolutionary in nature, but we have evolved far from this New Testament approach to church.    

 

Your best friends might well be in the church group you are a part of, and you might well be working for Jesus with them.  If this is so, great.  But this isn’t always the case.  My heart goes out to the growing multitude of Christians who are no longer satisfied with traditionalism.  This message is especially for them.  If you are one such unhappy “church-goer” and have left traditionalism, I hope and pray you don’t leave the Body of Christ.  You can leave the traditional church, but you shouldn’t leave those to whom Jesus has joined you.  It is with these friends that you can function in God’s kingdom and find peace in your heart.    

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